My First Post

So, this is my first official blog post.  I have thought a lot about blogging over the past several months, but was very skeptical (and still am) that anyone would want to read what I have to say.  I follow some great blogs!  I always look forward to reading them and they often inspire me and touch my heart.  Just this week I saw this quote on a blog I follow, Bits of Splendor, 

“Your heartache is someone else’s HOPE.

 If you made it through, somebody else is going to make it through.

Tell your story.”

                                                                                                           {Kim McManus}

I thought this quote was so true!  We all have a story to tell, and we never know when our story may be just what one person needed to hear.  So, I thought what better place to start than to tell our story, Ty’s story, to those of you who have not previously heard it.

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above”.
James 1:17


After a near perfect pregnancy, Ty was born on May 11, 2009.  He weighed 8lb. and 9oz, and was 20 inches long.  Todd and I were first time parents, and of coarse, we fell in love immediately.  Ty continued to be at the top percentile for height and weight, and he met all his milestones just as he should.  He was a wonderful baby.  He was always happy, only fussing when he was hungry or wet.  Parenting him seemed to come natural and be quite easy!

On the morning of December 15, 2009 our day started as normal.  Ty awoke around 6am.  He played while I finished getting ready for work.  He then ate and I got him ready for the sitters.  My sister took Ty every morning (her youngest went to the same sitter, she did mornings and I picked up in the afternoon).  Amanda picked Ty up around 7:45.  I put him in the car, kissed him and told him I loved him.  I headed to work as normal.  Normal, as we knew it, ended just 4 hours later.

At 11:58 my phone rang.  I answered and heard the words “Angie, it’s Debbie.  Ty’s not breathing and I have called 911″.  I said I’m on my way and just hung up.  I stood stunned for at least a second.  I couldn’t even move.  I ran out the door of my office as my dad was coming in.  I told him quickly all that I knew and he said he would drive.  While in the car I called Todd and then my mom (whose office at the time was connected to the hospital).  I felt like I was on the phone most of the drive trying to get people headed in the right direction.  A lot of it is a blur.  I remember thinking at first he must have gotten choked on something.  At one point though I looked at my dad and said, “what if she found him”.  SIDS entered my mind immediately! 

We all arrived at the hospital before Ty.  When I saw my mom, I knew it was bad.  She is a nurse, and usually completely together during any emergency.  Not this time.  They arrived with Ty and wheeled him past me quickly.  I could barely see him for all the blankets and the oxygen on him.  We were told to wait in “the room”.  Just a few minutes later our nightmare was confirmed.  Ty was pronounced dead just 28 minutes after I received the first call.  My precious boy was now in the arms of Jesus, and Todd and I (along with many friends and family) would begin a new journey in life. 

Our journey has seen many phases over the last 3 1/2 years.  It is my greatest heartache and will always be.  At the same time, we have been blessed beyond what we could have ever imagined!  I am forever thankful that, despite the heartache, the Lord chose me to be Ty’s momma.  I am grateful for all the people the Lord has placed in our life throughout this journey.  I love that He has given us the opportunity to share our story, help children in our community and hopefully glorify Him in the things we do.  This journey is still a roller coaster at times.  Anyone reading this who has experienced grief knows that it changes and comes in waves and NEVER goes away.  So welcome to our journey.  “I will praise Him in this storm”.   

3 Comments

  1. Mindy

    Angie you did great on your first “blog”! The crazy thing is that mom and I were discussing today how awesome you are and how strong you have been and continue to be! I often think of Ty and that dreadful day and my heart aches for you and the family. I love how you took such a tradgedy and turned it into something great. Your precious Ty is having the time of his life as he awaits for his marvelous parents. To you it feels like forever but to him its within a blink of an eye. How wondrous and amazing our God is to prepare such a beautiful and enchanted and peaceful home for us! Keep up your hard work because I know that you give hope to those who have suffered from losing a child as well.

    Love
    Mindy

  2. Carly

    Angie – Wow! A wonderful and powerful first post. I can’t imagine and will never understand your loss and/or grief. Despite losing Ty, you’ve managed to inspire others with your continued faith and generosity. I’m sure that I’m not alone when I say that I’ve been inspired by your continued faith, despite your tragedy. Then, to build a foundation that honors Ty’s life while also giving back to families in this community is a testament to your character and faith. You are an amazing mother and woman! I pray that GOD continues to strengthen you, your family, and families like yours who have lost a cherished child.
    Carly

  3. Michelle

    Angie, Keith & I attended the first Ty Big Bikes for Lil Tikes a few years ago, not knowing when we decided to go what we were attending for other than to have fun riding our bike.WOW! After walking in & registering & reading about Ty we knew we would become part of helping make SIDS & the Ty Foundation known to new parents in Madison Co.Almost losing our own child makes this very dear to our own hearts.We feel very blessed to have met you & your family & be a part of this wonderful foundation & help in anyway we can.
    God bless,
    Michelle

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